• I cannot get or maintain erection
• I ejaculate too soon
• It takes too long to ejaculate or I cannot ejaculate
• I fear I don’t satisfy my sexual partner
• I’m losing desire or arousal for sex
• I worry about the size of my genitalia

Issues for women can include

• I feel discomfort during intercourse
• I have difficulty or have never had an orgasm
• I regularly feel that I have to “fake” an orgasm
• I fear I can’t satisfy my sexual partner
• I’m losing desire or arousal towards sex
• I have anxiety regarding certain sexual acts or requests

How can IWIC help

The link between the mind and the body is powerful and can work for you or against you. Making the mind-body link work for you is why experiential methods are often the most effective for many performance issues. With the support and involvement of an intimacy mentor, successful experience happens in the moment and in a progressive fashion. You build confidence with each successful experience.

The beginning stage of sexual history-taking is to understand more about your performance issue. First, we eliminate medical issues. If there is medical complication involved, we collaborate with your MD as needed. We will then construct an intimacy program unique to your needs. The Center will help you implement your program to improve your intimacy and lead a more fulfilled life.

Issues for men include

• I fear and avoid physical relationships
• I’ve never had a physical relationship
• I’m fearful of dating
• I struggle with moving from a platonic to romantic relationship
• I don’t know how to escalate intimacy in a new relationship
• I’m newly single and scared to return to dating

Issues for women include

• I am afraid to go out on a dating scene
• I’m newly single and scared to return to dating
• I’m hung up on a past relationship and can’t move on
• I don’t have any desire to seek-out intimate relationship
• I don’t feel attractive to go out on a date
• I fear that I will never have a family

How can IWIC help
Seeking new relationships often feels treacherous. We believe the best strategy is to give you a “toolbox” of techniques. Step-by-step role-play can reinforce successful experiences and overcome challenges. You can practice a whole spectrum of interactions. Your intimacy mentor will hone-in on any difficult steps.

We start with a history-taking session. This session will determine the underlying issues hindering you from creating intimate relationships. We will then construct an intimacy program unique to your needs. The Center will help you implement your program to improve your intimacy and lead a more fulfilled life.

Issues for couples include

• We are not satisfied with the physical intimacy in our relationship
• We have difficulty conceiving due to sexual problems
• Our sexual appetites don’t match
• I want to or my partner wants to “open” our relationship

Issues for individuals in relationships include

• My partner no longer finds me physically attractive
• I’m no longer physically attracted to my partner
• I’m afraid to tell my partner what I like and dislike sexually
• I’m worried my fantasies will offend my partner
• I cheated on my partner
• My partner cheated on me

How can IWIC help

Unresolved intimacy problems can destroy a couple’s relationship. It is most helpful to work with both partners. A couple can use physical interaction and experiential exercises to communicate wants, desires, dislikes, likes, hopes, and fears. By doing so, intimacy can improve. We may also recommend individual sessions.

We start with a history-taking session. This session will help determine the underlying issues that hinder intimacy. We will then construct an intimacy program unique to you both. The Center will help you implement your program to improve your intimacy and lead a more fulfilled life.

• I have been sexually abused or traumatized
• I get into unhealthy or abusive relationships
• My partner died, and I don’t know how to start over
• No one ever talked to me about healthy sexuality and intimacy
• I was taught that sex is “dirty” or shameful

How can IWIC help

Your past can hold you hostage and hinder you from living your life to the full. To overcome your past, your intimacy program may begin with talk therapy. Talk therapy will reframe your thinking to move you from a powerless position to an empowered place. From that positive space, anxiety reduction exercises can transform your traumatic past and move you to be fully in-charge of your sexuality.

We start with a history-taking session. This session can help to understand your sexual trauma and your past. We will then construct an intimacy program unique to your needs. The Center will help you implement your program to improve your intimacy and lead a more fulfilled life.

Issues for men and women include

• I worry I spend too much time looking at porn
• I have fantasies/fetishes that I am ashamed of
• I think I might be attracted to the same sex
• I’ve never felt comfortable with my own gender
• I can’t talk to anyone about my attractions
• I am transitioning to a new gender

How can IWIC help

Often our family, friends, and society push a notion of sexuality that is much narrower than the range of desires and appetites that truly exist. We understand and embrace the full range of intimate behaviors that consenting adults find enjoyable. We maintain an unconditionally accepting environment and can offer education, information, and resources for you to embrace your unique sexual expression. The Center is also a safe place to question, explore and receive resources around sexual orientation and gender identity.

We start with a history-taking session. This session can help put into context what your issues and concerns are. We will then construct an intimacy program unique to your needs. The Center will help you implement your program to improve your intimacy and lead a more fulfilled life.

Issues for men and women include

• I’m embarrassed or ashamed of my appearance
• I have a physical limitation that inhibits intimacy
• I am disabled and want to learn new ways to be intimate
• I have fears about intimacy during pregnancy, after childbirth, or after menopause

How can IWIC help

The most powerful sexual organ in your body is your mind. Acceptance of yourself is the first step. From a place of acceptance, we will give you a “toolbox” of techniques that work for your situation. An intimacy mentor will help you explore and experiment with ways of being sensual that are unique for you. Step-by-step role-play will reinforce successful experiences. Your intimacy mentor will hone-in on any difficult steps. With the support and involvement of an intimacy mentor, successful experience happens in the moment and in a progressive fashion. You build confidence with each successful experience.

We start with a history-taking session. This session will help to understand your physical limitation or disability. We will then construct an intimacy program unique to your needs. The Center will help you implement your program to improve your intimacy and lead a more fulfilled life.